Understanding your Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
There are 9 Enneagram Types:
Type 1 The Reformer – Rational, Idealistic, Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, Perfectionist
Type 2 The Helper – Caring, Interpersonal, Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, Possessive
Type 3 The Achiever – Success-Oriented, Pragmatic, Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, Image-Conscious
Type 4 The Individualist – Sensitive, Withdrawn, Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, Temperamental
Type 5 The Researcher – Intense, Cerebral, Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, Isolated
Type 6 The Loyalist – Committed, Security-Oriented, Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, Suspicious
Type 7 The Enthusiast – Busy, Fun-Loving, Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, Scattered
Type 8 The Challenger – Powerful, Dominating, Self-Confident, Decisive, Wilful, Confrontational
Type 9 The Peacemaker – Easy-going, Self-Effacing, Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, Complacent
There are many free online quizzes that will help you to identify your enneagram type. I recommend this one (however it is not free) or to simply read about the different types, go here.The online test I recommend is not free however you can google many free versions.
If you are Enneagram Type 7 then check out the key characteristics and challenges of being a Type 7 mum here + a tapping script specific to your needs!
Characteristics of an enneagram type 7 mum
3. optimistic & positive
4. love sharing new experiences with your child
5. full of energy
7. encouraging of your child
8. love being playful with your child
9. great multi-tasker
Challenges of an enneagram type 7 mum
1. struggle with a consistent rhythm or routine for your child
2. avoid difficult feelings makes it challenging to provide emotional support to your child
4. overly impulsive, make rash decisions
5. difficulty setting & maintaining healthy boundaries
6. overindulging your child
8. struggle to be present with your child
9. overly busy due to FOMO
Core fear: Missing out, trapped
Core desire: Fun, freedom
Tapping Script for an Enneagram Type 7 Mum
Side of hand:
Even though I get FOMO – when I’m with my child, I miss out and when I’m away from him, I miss out, I acknowledge how that makes me feel.
Even though I sometimes feel trapped or bored as a mum, I am open to releasing this feeling so that I can be fully present with my child.
Even though it’s hard for me to sit still and focus on my child, I accept myself and choose to find joy in the present moment.
Top of head: It’s hard for me to be fully present when my mind is racing
Eyebrow: I always worry about what’s next
Side of eye: Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out on experiences with my child
Under eye: I don’t want to be a boring mum
Under nose: It’s hard for me to sit still and be patient
Chin: Fear of missing out
Collar bone: When I’m with my child, I’m thinking of all the things I could be doing & experiencing
Under arm: When I’m without my child, I worry I’ll miss out on an important milestones
Top of head: I’m so busy trying to fit it all in
Eyebrow: Sometimes it feels overwhelming
Side of eye: I try to do too much
Under eye: I’m always late
Under nose: And I let people down
Chin: And I acknowledge all my feelings around this
Collar bone: And in this moment I choose to let them go
Under arm: I wonder if I can be present with my child right now
Top of head: I wonder what that would feel like
Eyebrow: I choose to find joy in the present moment
Side of eye: I choose to enjoy every moment
Under eye: I choose to be fully present with my child
Under nose: I choose to release the anxiety and stress
Chin: And acknowledge the ways in which I experience the joy of being a mum
Collar bone: As I tap, I become an even more loving & caring mum
Under arm:I choose to embrace my child and this journey with love and gratitude
Centre of chest: Transform
WHAT TO DO NEXT
Check in to see how you feel now. Some signs that EFT is working are:
* feeling tired
* feeling more energised
* yawning or burping
* feeling different from before
If you are still struggling, book a 1-2-1 session with me.
Understanding the Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
Use the Enneagram together with EFT to build stronger relationships with your children and identify areas for personal growth. Remember that it’s never too late to learn about the Enneagram, and it’s a tool that can be used throughout your life.
To work with me to improve your parenting experience, with the enneagram and EFT, go here.