I love my morning routine. It sets me up for the day. When I wake up, I pick an affirmation card which I keep by my bed. Then I either meditating for 20 minutes or do the 15 Minute Miracle. After that I make a morning juice – this is my favourite one!. Once my daughter has left for school I go for a jog, have a shower and am ready for my day. On days when I don’t do this, I have less energy, less joy and am less productive.
The last few months I have noticed more and more resistance build up within me to do my routine, and yet when I do it, life is good! This week I have given myself a staycation retreat while my family are away camping. My focus has been to only do what feels good in the moment and to guided by my body sensations to choose activities feel good. I ended up reading, sitting in the sun, juicing, walking, giving myself a facial and more. But could still feel resistance to my morning routine. What I became increasingly aware of is how much of what I do is because I should, not because I want to or choose to. I began to realise that I am a real expert in “shoulding” and if one could be awarded a degree in “shoulding”, I would have it!!!
So how could I do the things that make me feel good with the quality of choosing rather than “shoulding”? I allowed myself to be open to the possibility of choosing to go jogging or not without judging one choice over another. So one the fist day I ended up not going at all, the second day, I went and did a full circuit and the third day I did a shorter circuit without pushing myself to do the full one because I should – its good for me and I get fit!
Bringing the quality of self love and self compassion into every moment guides me to make choices that nourish my being.
Here are some tips that have helped me:
- I ask myself:”What would I do if I truly loved myself in this moment?”
- I ask myself “What would god do in this situation?”
- Feel into my body and notice any tension or relaxation that arises when I think of the next thing to do
- Say to myself “I choose to do this” or “I get to do this”
In EFT, adding the word choose to the setup statement can powerfully support a making a decision and following it through.
Some setup statements examples are:
“Even though I don’t know what to do next, I choose to allow myself to be guided by my body sensations”
“Even though I should go jogging because it will make me feel good, I choose to be open to finding a way of doing this from a place of wanting rather than shoulding”
“Even though meditating makes me feel better and I am noticing resistance within me, I choose to be gentle with myself and accept myself just as I am”
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