Take time out from your busy lives! That’s my motto. I blog about it. I tweet about it. I work with women who can’t. I tap on it!
Today I got my period and am noticing my need to slow down and nurture myself. I had a lovely day planned with friends making vision boards. And I was really looking forward to it, although I didn’t fancy driving or interacting with the outside world (other than my lovely friends).
The problem is that I am the kind of person that if I make a commitment, I stick to it, even at the cost to my body if it is hurting or tired. So it was with some discomfort that I messaged the lovely Kate Codrington (abdominal massage and period expert!) who was hosting it to give her a heads up that I might not be coming as I had my period and wanted to see how I felt. She replied with the most lovely message saying “Stay at home! Rest in your cave” and as I read this I noticed my whole body sigh with relief and start to relax.
She had given me permission to stop!
But did I need her permission?
My favourite question to ask myself when trying to decide what to do is:
“If I truly loved myself what would I do?”
I knew the answer was to stay at home and nurture myself but all my old programming was still flagging up all the reasons why I shouldn’t.
Here are some reasons why we don’t always listen to ourselves even when we know what is best for us:
- I need to keep my word
- I don’t want to miss out
- I don’t want to let people down
- I don’t want people to think I’d unreliable
- I don’t want people to think I’m weak
- I don’t deserve it
Maybe you can relate to some of these?
Anyway the great news is that I stayed at home and as yesterday I had my Red Tent set up from a retreat I ran this week, I bathed in a red cocoon of love and nurtured myself with my favourite music by Deva Premal, a raw cacao smoothie (raw cacao, chia seeds, flax seeds, dates, lacuma, brazil nuts and coconut water) and made my 2016 vision board while being inspired by Amber Kuileimailani Bonnici on her Woman Unleashed Retreat video 🙂
So, with a little help from Kate, I walked my talk – thank you, Kate 🙂
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