If you happened to be wandering the streets of Kings Langley today you may have been one of the lucky few to have found a love letter. You may have thought it was for someone else but actually it was for you. I don’t know you but, inspired by the website www.globalloveletters.com (which does not exist any more), I, together with some friends, decided to spread the love in our village.
The seeds of this idea were sown a few years ago when I received the book by David Hamilton called “Why Kindness is Good For You”. At the back of the book there was a kindness challenge for I got together with some friends and we decided to go for it for 20 days and do one random act of kindness per day. These varied from picking up litter, letting someone go before us in the queue, baking cakes for someone and being kind to ourselves.
So when I spotted the Global Love Letters website a few weeks ago which promotes the idea of spreading love by leaving anonymous love letters in public places, I thought this could be fun. Spreading love and kindness is contagious. If someone is kind to you, it makes you happier, more likely to want to be nicer to others and according to David Hamilton, healthier too.
One afternoon seven of us got together with coloured pens, paper and stickers and began to write from our heart and sharing ideas and creativity. One by one we read out our letters to each other which was moving and we found ourselves wishing that we could receive such beautiful words. The truth is we can but we need to start by loving ourselves, not in a self-indulgent way but in more of a caring and appreciative way. The more we love ourselves the more we can give and receive love from others.
Only we can make ourselves happy although most people look for happiness outside themselves. They think the latest gadget or designer dress will make them happy. And it probably does for a short while but if they are only seeking happiness from outside themselves, soon enough they will feel an emptiness that needs to be filled – with more material goods. Some people look for happiness from other people which can lead to neediness or dependence on others.
So what if we don’t love ourselves? Some people feel they don’t deserve to love themselves. Others may believe it’s too self-indulgent. In EFT, the standard setup statement, we say
“Even though I have this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”.
For some people, saying “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” is challenging in which case they may prefer to say “I accept myself”, “I’m OK”, “I’m here” or as my EFT colleague, Sejual Shah has coined the phrase “I soothe and comfort myself”.
So here are some EFT statements that can be used alongside the tapping to help increase one’s sense of self-love and self-acceptance. If you haven’t done EFT before, you may like to download
our free manual or attend one of our workshops.
“Even though I don’t love myself, I soothe and comfort myself”
“Even though I don’t love myself, I am open to the possibility of accepting this about myself anyway”
“Even though I don’t love myself, I accept this about myself”
“Even though I don’t love myself yet, I am open to the possibility of loving myself one day”
“Even though I don’t deserve to love myself, I’m OK”
“Even though it’s OK for others to love themselves but not for me, I soothe and comfort myself”
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