Yesterday I was surfing the internet (something I do way to much of!) when I stumbled across this article in the Guardian “What are parents’ top five regrets?” Tears streamed as I read it and I noticed that there I was, again, on the computer, my daughter in the other room, playing with her dad’s phone and I realised that here was an opportunity to connect with my daughter and spend time with her. So I went over, gave her a big hug and we had a lovely chat.
Loving mother
Nowadays, our lives are so busy that parents often need to schedule quality time with their children rather than just being with them and sharing time together. Even when we are with our children, often we are not really present with them. Often our minds are so full of what we need to do and what we have forgotten to do and worries about the past or future.
What our children need is for us to be present with them and really hear them. In order to do that we need to be able to be present and centered ourselves.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or Tapping is a great tool for parents to practice themselves or with their children. Here are some EFT statements to help you get started. If they don’t feel right, just add your own. If you are unfamiliar with EFT use the EFT reference sheet with the statements below.
Even though I never have enough time, I deeply an completely love and accept myself
Even though I wish I had more time for my children, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself
Even though I feel guilty that I haven’t spent enough time with my children, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I don’t know how to be present with my children, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I’m trying to do a better job than my parents did with me and I seem to be repeating their patterns, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Use each of the above as the start of an EFT round and then tap round the points saying each of the above statements which are the Ask and Receive Protocol as created by Sandi Radomski:
There are parts of my being that already know how to be more present with my children
Those parts of my being are informing the rest of my now.
They are doing so with ease and grace
My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information now
Information transfer is now complete
Finish with placing your hands on your heard and saying Transform.
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