This is something we sometimes hear this at our EFT workshops when we come to the exercise to work on an uncomfortable memory. People who have been in the personal development or therapeutic field have usually done a lot of work on themselves and don’t feel the need to “drag up the past – again!”. Other people prefer to leave the past in the past. Yet others would prefer not to work on those memories because that have “made me the strong person I am today”.
I was inspired to write this blog after receiving this glowing testimonial about our EFT workshop last week:
Dear Peter and Tamara
I feel I need to email you to thank you both for an amazing day yesterday.
I was indeed overwhelmed, amazed and transformed. My life will never be the same again.
I have done a counselling course Angel healing, Spiritual healing, Hypnotherapy, I have had numerous healing sessions, reiki, shamanic, sound healing, this life regression, past life regression, between lives regression. I have read countless mind body connection books, however nothing comes to close to the experience yesterday.
I thought I knew quite a lot about EFT, I have a friend who is a practitioner who has given a talk to our healing circle, I have read the EFT manual and The Tapping solution, and lots of articles,and blog postings. I have practised myself for headaches and similar, I have even demonstrated its use to others. How unprepared I was for the emotional release that I experienced.
As a fairly open person I thought that I had dealt with all my issues, I could talk about them with ease and have done so many times, I obviously had not really dealt with them at all, not the emotional part anyway.
Many thanks again. See you both soon.
Love and Light, Julie xx
So here are some good reasons to use EFT on past negative events or traumas:
- Even if you can talk about the event does not mean you have necessarily released negative emotions and beliefs created as a result of experiencing it. For example if as a child at school you were asked a question in class and were punished because you didn’t know the answer, you may have created the belief that you are not clever/ are stupid. This belief may still be with you today and be holding you back – for example – trying new things that you think you are not clever enough to do. Releasing the negative emotions associated with that event and any other supporting events of the belief that you are stupid, will then release the truth of that belief.
- Just because you don’t talk about it does not mean it is forgotten and that is doesn’t effect you. Again here any beliefs that were created in the moment of the event, may still be in place and holding you back in life. In fact unconsciously you will be avoiding the upsetting/traumatic event, therefore will also be either avoiding situations in life where you could unconsciously access the feelings of the past event (through matching memory triggers) OR could be finding yourself being inappropriately being emotionally triggered. Either way there is a good chance the imprinted trauma will be affecting you.
- When negative experiences have resulted in creating an apparent strength, releasing negative emotions about the event will not stop you being strong – they can even make you stronger. So, for example, if as a child, you were bullied by your older brother you may at some point create a belief that you are weak. In order to compensate for that belief, some people might create a vow that nobody is going to bully them again which may result in a very strong exterior which may have led to a very successful life but is based on an overcompensation in order to avoid feeling weak. Releasing the negative emotions will allow your true strength and power to unfold which come from a centred and grounded place.
- Fear of releasing negative emotions about an event will not stop you staying safe. If you were beaten by your father as a child, you might create a belief that men are dangerous and therefore avoid contact with them in order to keep yourself safe but also miss out on positive interactions and relationships with men. Healing this event (or series of events) will allow you to discern more intuitively and instinctively who to trust and who not to, as fear blocks clarity of thought and intuition
- If you don’t feel anything or when you feel numb when you think about it, does not mean its not affecting you. Not feeling anything does not mean there is no underlying intensity with the event. Ask yourself, if you were to go into the memory in detail, what emotion would you experience and if you had to guess on a scale of 0 to 10 with 0 being no intensity at all and 10 being the most, what would it be? Or you would ask yourself, on a scale of 0 to 10, how strong in the numbness? Numbness can cover up something you don’t want to feel, but it can also prevent you experience life to the full. By dealing with what is underneath safely means there is nothing you need to cover up and you can be present and feel safe.
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