According to this Daily Mail article, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie Ware, palliative care nurse who looked after the dying, reported that there are common themes of the types of things people regret on their death bed. In this series of 5 blogs, I will be exploring each of these.
Regret #1: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Sometimes in order to be true to yourself and to honour your needs, you may need to disappoint another. One way I have been exploring this is by asking myself – if I truly loved myself, what would I choose to do in this moment. I explore some of the dilemmas I faced and how I dealt with them. Read more about this here.
Living a life true to yourself requires you to be authentic. In our culture, wherever you turn, you can see inauthenticity. Just look at any glossy magazine to see photos of photoshopped glamorous women or tabloid newspapers to read stories about people cheating and manipulating others – these are what sell the papers!
If we spent more time reading positive stories like those in Positive News or watching inspiring videos like TED talks we may feel more open-hearted which will generate a more loving feeling towards yourself and others.
Here is an EFT tapping sequence to increase your ability to live a life true to yourself. If my words don’t match how you feel, substitute your own. If you have never done EFT before, you can download a free manual here.
“Even though I should:
- honour my commitment with …
- go to college because it will make my parents proud
- get married because its the right thing to do
- go out to work and leave my baby because its not fair on my husband to earn all the money
- comfort my friend again even though I’m exhausted
- something else…
I deeply and completely love and accept myself”
“Even though I should …. I choose to know that it is OK to listen to my heart and do what is right for me.”
“Even though I should … I am open to the possibility of finding the right words to express my needs from a place of loving kindness”
Then tap though the sequence of points saying the following suggested reminder phrases (or something more relevant):
Round 1 of tapping:
Doing the right thing
Worried about letting them down
Scared of what they might think
I can’t do that
It would rock the boat
I don’t want to make waves
They might not like or accept me any more
I didn’t know I had a right to do something different
Round 2 of tapping:
Open to the possibility of letting go of my fears about what others will think
Open to the possibility of letting go of my fear of rejection
Open to the possibility of letting go of my fears about what others will think
Open to the possibility listening to my heart and doing what is right for me
Choosing to find the right words to express my needs
Trusting that I can find the right words to kindly express my needs
Open to the possibility of feeling kindness to myself and others
Open to the possibility of feeling compassion to myself and others
Open to the possibility of loving myself and others
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