What do you do if you just have a few minutes left and your client has burst into tears about something that has come up?
This is a situation that I try to avoid by managing my time and steering the session aware from entering any new territory within the last 20 minutes of a session. But sometimes the unexpected happens and needs to be dealt with in the moment. My priority is the safety of my client and if it is not appropriate to end the session at the allotted time, I will work with my client to reach a calming state. I would not try to resolve the new issue at this time but simply release the emotion that is there so that she can safely step out into the outside world. I also allow 15 minutes between client sessions so that I don’t feel stressed about somebody waiting and also because I like to have a space between sessions to feel completed with the prior session and centred to start the next one.
It is lovely when a client comes with an issue and within one session we arrive at complete resolution but this is not always the case. So how does one end the session when the issue is not complete. Here are a few of my favourite ways:
Completion round of standard EFT
This is also useful if you are working on yourself and have run out of time or have noticed some resistance arising that you can’t tackle yourself. Here is an example
Setup statement:
Even though I still have some of this issue left, I choose to be open to the possibility of the healing continuing gently, easily and effortlessly after this session, and the days to come.
Even though there is some of this left, I choose allow the healing to continue.
Even though there is some left, I choose to remember that I am safe now and trust my healing is unfolding exactly as it is meant to.
If you have been working on your own and have come up with some resistance that you can’t shift:
Even though I feel blocked and don’t know how to continue, I choose to be open trusting the process and accepting myself and my block/ resistance.
Even though I can’t let go of this and have run out of time for now, I choose to accept myself just the way I am and just the way I am not.
Even though I’m stuck, I choose to attract people and situations that will help me to move on from this stuckness.
When tapping through the points, some reminder phrases could be:
Remaining unresolved issue
Rome wasn’t built in a day
I have all the time I need to release this safely and gently
Accepting myself and this issue just the way it is
Inviting more trust into every cell of my body
Inviting the possibility of feeling safe enough to move forward
Remembering the progress I have made
Loving myself just as I am and just the way I’m not
I have more than enough time to resolve fully and completely
My healing is continuing with every breath I take
Not all of these will be appropriate. Use the phrases that resonate and make up your own.
Positive EFT by Silvia Hartmann
Instead of focussing on the issue or negative feelings remaining, you tap on a positive feeling, quality or remedy that is needed to transform the issue or feel better in that moment. To try out Positive EFT on self love, go here.
Ask and Receive by Sandy Radomski
Here are some sentences that are great to finish up with, while tapping on the finger points:
There are parts of my being that already know how to heal this issue safely and completely in my own time.
Those parts of my being are informing me now with ease and grace.
My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.
Information Transfer is now complete.
Transform by Peter Donn
I like to complete every session after doing one of the above with saying this subconscious cue word while putting your hands on your heart centre and taking a deep breath.
There are many more ways to complete a session and I would love to hear your ideas too.
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