I was contacted by my client to work on her the birth trauma of her son 6 years ago. She came yesterday and I definitely had that Mercury retrograde feeling!
So I started my session with my online client today and after a few minutes her wifi packed up so she called me and when I picked up, the line went dead. So I called her back and got the wrong number but before waiting to hear her voice I start saying “I’m so sorry…” (as it had taken me ages to get her number and call her back) but it ended up being the wrong number! So I called again and we started the session. After about half an hour when my phone line packed up so I called her back on my mobile – only 3rd time lucky I got the right number!!!
Despite all that, the most incredible session unfolded that (with permission) I share here:
My client booked the session with the intention of working on the birth of her first child 6 years ago which had been very traumatic but at the same time she was experiencing excruciating neck pain and didn’t want to focus on it. She also had not had good results in the past when she tapped (done EFT) by herself on physical issues. My sense was that the birth trauma and the neck were connected somehow and that whatever we worked on the other would benefit.
I felt it would be good to give some space at the start of the session to the neck issue which started a few weeks ago and when she had it X-rayed the vertebrae were shown to be stacked vertically and was told that there should be a natural curve. Then all the communication problems started as mentioned above, so when we finally got to a point where we could hear each other, I suggested we get down to addressing the birth.
Even though my client had already addressed the birth trauma and felt she had dealt with it, she also said that there wasn’t a day in the last 6 years when she hasn’t thought about the birth and felt that there was some resistance and fear what might unfold if she did look at it.
So I thought I would set the scene with doing some gentle tapping on setting the intention that releasing the remaining birth trauma would be a gentle and easy process. After a seconds into that round of tapping, my client said that she didn’t deserve to have a gentle process of releasing the birth trauma. She went on to say that she felt she deserved to be flayed, whipped and walked through the streets in sack cloth. This seemed to me to be a very intense reaction so I asked her more about this image and she said it was very vivid. So I asked her how old she felt and she said she felt as if she was in her 20s. She then went on to say that when the chiropractor told her that the vertebrae of her spine were completely vertical, she had a sense that that is what they would look like if someone had been hung. She told me she was unsure about whether she believed in past lives and I told her that it didn’t matter but if vivid images were coming to her we could use them as if they were real (whether they were real of not).
So she went on to describe a story of what she felt was happening:
“I felt my child had died and somehow I was being blamed for it and I was being taken to be hung crawling in sack cloth along the stress”.
So I asked her what she was feeling as that 20 year old crawling through the streets and she said horrified, helpless and full of grief. So we tapped to reduce that. I then asked her what support that 20 year old needed and my client said that she could support the 20 year old by letting her lean on her. We did some tapping on that scenario and on further questioning, my client said the 20 year old felt desperate and that it was too much for her to support her. So I asked her what else could happen to support the 20 year old. And she said that all the wise women ancestors could support my client in supporting the 20 year old and this felt better. But she felt that the 20 year old was caught between 2 traumas – the grief of the loss of her child and the horror of being hung.
She felt that the wise women ancestors wer
e crying out and howling with grief for all the sisters in a the massive story of patriarchal men hurting women.
So we tapped on that and what came to my client’s mind was that her son was really aggressive and that she gets judged for that and is a bad mother. The woman in her 20s was hung because she was believed to be a bad mother because she had killed her son (although my client sensed she was innocent).
After a round of tapping, my client felt more removed from the 20 year old and could feel compassion for her sobbing rather than sobbing with and for her.
We then tapped on the hanging of the 20 year old but she felt stuck as she it would never be OK that she was hung and it would be wrong to soften all those feelings. She felt she would be abandoning her if she felt it less keenly. So we tapped on all of this until my client realised that she wanted to be present and supportive to the 20 year old but not entangled with her. We did some more tapping and I asked her what other support the 20 year old needed and she said she needed the wise woman ancestors to sing to the 20 year old as she was being hung. As the practitioner I felt a wave of prickles and tingles as she said this (in fact I can feel it as I write this too!). I also got a strong image of the wise women bathing, caressing, honouring and taking care of the woman’s body after she had been hung so I shared this with my client who also felt resonance with this.
We tapped on this image and then my client got a sense that the dead 20 year old was reunited with her dead son and was holding him and he was frightened. She soothed and reassured him, telling him how much she loved him and that it wasn’t his or her fault but it was an accident and that they were together now.
Thoughts of my client’s birth came back into her mind now and she felt helpless while thinking of the “birth that was brutalised by the men who took it over“. She also said that her son was always on high alert and she felt he was on course to be involved in violence and all because she “fucked it up on his first day”. So we tapped on all of that.
As we were heading towards the end of the session, I asked her what quality she would like more of in her life and she said the support from the wise women ancestors, so we did and round of Positive EFT on that and this is the message I received later that day:
“I am overrun with love for you and what you do and tapping. Thanks so much for this morning. You are such an amazing guide on these adventures. So gentle and supportive. If I could I would bottle what’s happening in my home this afternoon and send it to you …. it’s all quiet and the children are happy and relaxed, lots of peace and quiet. Magic!!! xxxx
The following day, I received another message:
“Just woken up to ….. an almost totally pain free neck!!!!!!!! Not had that in years! So tapping after all does work on my physical issues!”
We do have another session booked to continue this great work…
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