Improve calm, enjoy family life- yes it is possible!
I want to help you to improve calm, stop feeling so anxious, stressed and tired and start enjoying life with your family. I know this is possible but am aware that for many mums, daily life can seem overwhelming and a struggle.
Is this you?
- Do you feel like you’re juggling sooo many balls that you can’t catch your breath?
- Do you wake up at night with your To Do list spinning round in your head?
- Are you physically exhausted, mentally drained and have you resigned yourself to this just being ‘the way it has to be’?
- As a result of all this overwhelm and exhaustion, do you find yourself getting impatient, frustrated or angry with your children… and then feeling really guilty about it?
Do you KNOW something needs to change… but have no idea where to start?
Good! Because, no matter where you’re starting from… And no matter how little free time you have right now…
And no matter how many things you’ve tried in the past to make life flow better… If you’re ready to get your sanity back – I’m here to show you how you can make really big changes in your life by taking really tiny actions.
Tip 1: To improve calm
My name is Tamara Donn and I’ve been helping mums, at all stages of life to regain their calm, enjoy their kids more and get more done for over 10 years now. And after working with hundreds of mums, and witnessing their incredible transformations I am now committed to sharing my work with as many mums as possible.
Many of the mums I work with argue that feeling exhausted and overwhelmed is “just the way it is” and that nothing can change because of their circumstances. Maybe they have lots of kids, lots of school runs, elderly parents to look after on top of their family, a lack of support, disabilities, no partner or a partner that’s away or unhelpful … these are all very big and very real challenges that many of us have to face. I get that.
Other mums tell me they have tried to change things like getting massages or going to yoga but life soon gets in the way again – and they can’t keep it up. Right now, from where you are standing, nothing can change. I agree.
But everything can change AND WILL CHANGE.
You CAN improve calm and begin to enjoy family life, you just have to commit to change.
I know how hard that can be but it doesn’t have to be, you can make BIG changes by implementing tiny actions and by establishing a daily routine to improve calm, you will soon notice the difference.
Tip 2 – To improve calm
What I’m about to say, may seem a little far fetched but, I have seen it work so many times now – for myself and for my clients – that I know it to be true and I can be 100% certain that it will work for you too. When you change your mindset, you create new thoughts that were not there before, and you are able to see new possibilities.
To illustrate this, imagine you are lost in the forest and can’t find your way out. You are surrounded by trees and you don’t know which path to take. Now imagine that you could rise above the forest and get an overview of the paths in and out of the forest. It would be easy to see which one to take.
It’s the same for you.
In order to change and improve calm we need to ‘rise above’ our circumstances (whatever they might be) and instead of thinking about everyone else all the time we need to start with ourselves. When we can begin to release the stress, anxiety, overwhelm and exhaustion we can get clarity about the bigger picture and from there – EVERYTHING CHANGES.
Mums do have it tough!
It’s not surprising that so many mums are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, I know I used to be.
As a society we put so much pressure on mums. And we are told we can have it all which often makes us feel like failures when being a mum, worker, wife, housewife and more feels like packing at least 3 full time jobs into one day!
And what makes it harder, is that whereas in previous eras people lived in smaller communities and were supported by their extended family, we often live far from our family members now and end up doing everything on our own!
But I just want to remind you that you are doing an AMAZING job.
You are enough just as you are.
Your children love you even when you mess up.
Our culture may not celebrate us mums and everything that we do but I do and I want you to too!
Tip 3 – To improve calm
I teach and use a powerful self-help technique called EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or Tapping. It is like acupuncture for emotions without the use of needles.
It may seem a bit weird to start with but believe me, the results I’ve seen (with myself and my clients) have been nothing short of amazing. Some of the things they report are less stress, anxiety and overwhelm – sometimes within minutes!, better sleep for themselves and their kids, more energy, improved relationships and when they tap with their kids, happier kids!
“I watched your EFT video before bed last night with my eldest! I slept nearly straight away. My eldest was a bit judgmental last night but still did it and was surprised this morning that she went to sleep straight away. Thank you sooooo much ”, Kate Kendall
“EFT is instantly calming and helps me feel that I can control my feelings of anxiety, stress and overwhelm. It made me realise I have a choice on how I live my life.”, GD
“Woohoo!! I’ve had amazing success with tapping today! I was SO angry about something, really incandescent, so I tapped to release that instead of anxiety and omg! I actually felt something tilt inside me and it’s gone! I just don’t care about it any more. I feel brilliant and ebullient”, RE
Tip 4-To improve calm
I did a Dancing Divas challenge with some of my facebook followers and it was not only great fun, but we all felt amazingly energised, improved our calm and had a fantastic day! Feel free to pop into my facebook group and meet these mums- one important part of improving your calm and your general sense of wellbeing is having support- and there is lots of that in the Chillout Zone for Frazzled Mums.
Put yourself first – and don’t feel guilty about it
I wrote an article about putting on your oxygen mask first, advice from every airline to mums in case of emergency. It is true, we almost always consider the needs of our children before our own and while that may seem “noble”, it is not much good if we are burnt out and exhausted – we are no good to our family that way. However, I can hear you saying, “I don’t have the time to relax, get away from it all etc…” That’s why I reccommend EFT as a simple, quick way to get your sanity back, improve calm and in just 5 minutes a day feel a whole lot better about yourself.
Tip 5 – To improve calm
Being grateful can seem difficult when the washing machine has broken down; your child is refusing to sleep; your boss yelled at you at work and a partner is being unhelpful. But maybe that morning your child hugged you unexpectedly; a stranger smiled and wished you a good day and the sun shone on the flowers on your way to the shops? There is always something to be grateful for, we just have to consciously remind ourselves of it.
If you are a mum who wants to have feel happier in herself, with her children check out my book Frazzled to Fabulous in 5 Minutes a Day Follow my quick and easy step-by-step programme here.