Understanding your Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
There are 9 Enneagram Types:
Type 1 The Reformer – Rational, Idealistic, Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, Perfectionist
Type 2 The Helper – Caring, Interpersonal, Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, Possessive
Type 3 The Achiever – Success-Oriented, Pragmatic, Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, Image-Conscious
Type 4 The Individualist – Sensitive, Withdrawn, Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, Temperamental
Type 5 The Researcher – Intense, Cerebral, Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, Isolated
Type 6 The Loyalist – Committed, Security-Oriented, Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, Suspicious
Type 7 The Enthusiast – Busy, Fun-Loving, Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, Scattered
Type 8 The Challenger – Powerful, Dominating, Self-Confident, Decisive, Wilful, Confrontational
Type 9 The Peacemaker – Easy-going, Self-Effacing, Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, Complacent
There are many free online quizzes that will help you to identify your enneagram type. I recommend this one (however it is not free) or to simply read about the different types, go here.The online test I recommend is not free however you can google many free versions.
If you are Enneagram Type 2 then check out the key characteristics and challenges of being a Type 2 mum here + a tapping script specific to your needs!
Characteristics of an enneagram type 2 mum
1. Caring and nurturing
2. Warm and affectionate
3. Put others’ needs ahead of her own
4. Tendency to be people-pleasers
5. May struggle with asserting her own needs
6. Creates harmony & unity in the family
7. Can get emotionally exhausted
8. Empathetic and intuitive
Challenges of an enneagram type 2 mum
1. Overcommitting and Neglecting Self-Care
2. Put others’ needs before their own
3. Neglect self-care leading to burnout & fatigue
4. Difficulty Setting Boundaries
5. Struggle to say “no” to your children’s requests
6. Fear of Rejection
7. Overcompensate by seeking validation & approval
8. May over-give & over-care leading to exhaustion
Core fear: Being unloved, unwanted
Core desire: Being loved, appreciated
Tapping Script for an Enneagram Type 2 Mum
Side of hand:
Even though I try so hard to give my children what they need, I acknowledge that sometimes it comes at the expense of my own well-being.
Even though my desire to take care of my family sometimes causes me to neglect my own needs, I choose to find a balance that works for me and my family.
Even though I feel overwhelmed and neglected at times, I choose to focus on finding ways to care for myself while also caring for those around me.
Top of head:My children are my priority
Eyebrow: Sometimes at the expense of my own needs
Side of eye: Maybe I neglect myself at times
Under eye: And its exhausting
Under nose: And overwhelming
Chin: But I feel guilty or selfish taking time for me
Collar bone: Its hard to get the balance right
Under arm: I acknowledge how that makes me feel in my body
Top of head: Acknowledging any tightness, stress or heaviness
Eyebrow: Its OK and safe to allow those sensations to be present
Side of eye: Its OK and safe to take a deep breath in… and out.
Under eye: Its OK and safe to be present in this moment
Under nose: And to take care of myself
Chin: The more moments I take for me…
Collar bone: … the more my children will benefit
Under arm: So I am open to the possibility…
Top of head: of making this moment count.
Eyebrow: I choose to find easy and effortless ways…
Side of eye: … to take care of my own needs…
Under eye: … so that I can take care of others needs…
Under nose: … without draining my resources.
Chin: I choose to know…
Collar bone: … that my children will love me just as much, and even more…
Under arm: as I take care of myself.
Centre of chest: Transform
WHAT TO DO NEXT
Check in to see how you feel now. Some signs that EFT is working are:
* feeling tired
* feeling more energised
* tingling
* lightness
* heaviness
* yawning or burping
* feeling different from before
If none of those apply, don’t despair. There are many reasons why EFT may appear not to be working. Some of them are here. And 5 powerful reasons why EFT can get stuck is here.
If you are still struggling, book a 1-2-1 session with me.
Understanding the Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
Use the Enneagram together with EFT to build stronger relationships with your children and identify areas for personal growth. Remember that it’s never too late to learn about the Enneagram, and it’s a tool that can be used throughout your life.
To work with me to improve your parenting experience, with the enneagram and EFT, go here.