Understanding your Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
There are 9 Enneagram Types:
Type 1 The Reformer – Rational, Idealistic, Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, Perfectionist
Type 2 The Helper – Caring, Interpersonal, Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, Possessive
Type 3 The Achiever – Success-Oriented, Pragmatic, Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, Image-Conscious
Type 4 The Individualist – Sensitive, Withdrawn, Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, Temperamental
Type 5 The Researcher – Intense, Cerebral, Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, Isolated
Type 6 The Loyalist – Committed, Security-Oriented, Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, Suspicious
Type 7 The Enthusiast – Busy, Fun-Loving, Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, Scattered
Type 8 The Challenger – Powerful, Dominating, Self-Confident, Decisive, Wilful, Confrontational
Type 9 The Peacemaker – Easy-going, Self-Effacing, Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, Complacent
There are many free online quizzes that will help you to identify your enneagram type. I recommend this one (however it is not free) or to simply read about the different types, go here.The online test I recommend is not free however you can google many free versions.
If you are Enneagram Type 4 then check out the key characteristics and challenges of being a Type 4 mum here + a tapping script specific to your needs!
Characteristics of an enneagram type 4 mum
1. Characteristics of an enneagram 4 parents
2. strong desire to express their unique identity
3. Expressive and creative
4. Encourage their children to develop their creativity & imagination
5. Sensitive & attuned to their child’s emotional needs
6. Provide a safe & nurturing environment for their children
7. Introspective
8. Encourage their children to develop a sense of self-identity
9. Artistic
10. Non-conformist, encourage their children to think outside the box
Challenges of an enneagram type 4 mum
1. Doubt your ability as a mum
2. Compare yourself to other mums
3. Feel inadequate
4. Overwhelming emotions
5. Feel misunderstood
6. Struggle to create a routine that works for you & your child
7. Overly focused on your own needs
8. Sensitive to criticism about your parenting style
9. Struggle to meet the needs of your child
Core fear: Being misunderstood, inadequate
Core desire: Being unique, special
Tapping Script for an Enneagram Type 4 Mum
Side of hand:
Even though I feel like I’m not good enough, I acknowledge how that makes me feel with compassion.
Even though I feel sometimes feel overwhelmed with emotions and find it difficult to cope as a mum, I allow those feelings to be here.
Even though I often feel misunderstood and judged as a parent, I wonder if I can tap into my inner strength and resilience.
Top of head:Not feeling good enough
Eyebrow: Feeling overwhelmed
Side of eye: Difficulty coping as a mum
Under eye: I often feel like I’m not a good enough parent
Under nose: I feel misunderstood and judged by others
Chin: I struggle with balancing my emotions with the needs of my children
Collar bone: Other mums seem to cope so much better than me
Under arm: Feeling inadequate
Top of head: Acknowledging all these thoughts swirling around in my head
Eyebrow: Acknowledging all my difficult feelings
Side of eye: Its safe and OK to let them be here now
Under eye: I am noticing where I feel them in my body
Under nose: I am breathing calm into those parts of my body <take a deep breath>
Chin: Maybe I can release some of these feelings now
Collar bone: I choose to release any negative beliefs that are holding me back
Under arm: I choose to tap into my inner strength and resilience
Top of head: I am finding a way of trusting myself as a mum
Eyebrow: I am doing the best I can
Side of eye: I am worthy of love, respect, and appreciation
Under eye: I am becoming a more loving and compassionate mum
Under nose: My children are lucky to have me
Chin: I have everything I need to thrive
Collar bone: I am a strong and capable
Under arm: I choose cultivate a loving and supportive environment for my children.
Centre of chest: Transform
WHAT TO DO NEXT
Check in to see how you feel now. Some signs that EFT is working are:
* feeling tired
* feeling more energised
* tingling
* lightness
* heaviness
* yawning or burping
* feeling different from before
If none of those apply, don’t despair. There are many reasons why EFT may appear not to be working. Some of them are here. And 5 powerful reasons why EFT can get stuck is here.
If you are still struggling, book a 1-2-1 session with me.
Understanding the Enneagram can enable you to become a more effective mum, creating deeper connections to your children and supporting your children to grow into confident adults.
Use the Enneagram together with EFT to build stronger relationships with your children and identify areas for personal growth. Remember that it’s never too late to learn about the Enneagram, and it’s a tool that can be used throughout your life.
To work with me to improve your parenting experience, with the enneagram and EFT, go here.